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The Bullet Post

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We are FINALLY having a few sunny days here. I’m so excited to be getting my Vitamin D from the sun that I just don’t have much time to be on the computer (or doing laundry, or cleaning… or cooking… such a waste of time when there is SUNSHINE!) So please excuse the bullet post, but that’s all I’ve got for you right now.

~ There is still no news from Haiti. Not even a whisper.

~ Recently a friend in the USA posted a prayer request for our adoption on a prayer line she is part of. Over 400 people received a request to pray for Giselle’s release into our family! I was so blessed and perhaps it was a mix of finally seeing the sun for the first time in 2 weeks and the prayers, but that day was a really good day.

~ Saturday is mine and Darren’s 16 year wedding anniversary. My dear hubby offered to buy me a ticket to go see Giselle. Which is crazy because we have no child care and he is more than swamped at work right now. I’m going to wait, but just the thought was a huge blessing to me.

~ Kylar brought me breakfast in bed a few days ago. I woke up to yogurt with fresh strawberries and blueberries, and heavily buttered toast at my bedside. I sure like that kid.

~ Speaking of Kylar, I am so amazed at his attitude towards soccer this year. In previous years he would be depressed and angry if his team lost, but now he says “But I’m so happy with how we played! We played really well.” A mixture of great coaching and some maturing. This is huge for my very dramatic, emotional kid.

~ Amara is doing a developmental leap right now and coming up with all kinds of new phrases. “Mom, can I ask you a question?”, and “What are you eating for?” Many of them make me laugh and I wish I had an instant recorder of all the things she is coming up with now.

~ Two days ago we were driving to Old Navy – the wind was picking up and it looked like it might pour rain. I was wondering if I had my umbrella packed, Amara was commenting… “Mom, look! The flowers are dancing!” She was amazed. I am amazed at her.

~ Getting excited about our new project that I still haven’t told you about. I will. Soon.

I hope the days are full of sunshine where you are – and that you get to experience them to the fullest!

“Happy You-You” to Me

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(That’s how Amara says it)

Today is my birthday. I am 37 (I think – I always forget!). Today I celebrate the life God has blessed me with.


A kind, compassionate, big-hearted husband whom I can share life with.

2 wonderful little people who love me and forgive me even when I mess up a million times a day.

1 little bundle who will join our hearts soon, and hopefully join our family in the not too distant future.

Loving family and friends who support me, teach me and love me.

A God who loves me though my heart can be so selfish and negative and…yucky. The blessing of growing older is that I am truly learning how much my God loves me. What a rock He is!

Seasons of the Month

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Last night I was moaning to hubby about how I feel like my whole day is filled with “shoulds” and “should-haves”. It starts from the moment until I wake up until I go to sleep.

I should have woken up earlier and worked out or had a quiet time.
I should keep my house cleaner
I should make a from-scratch dinner every day
I should loose 5 pounds and do ab exercises
I should spend more time with Kylar
I should enjoy playing with my kids
I should not get so frustrated that hubby doesn’t show up for dinner 4 days out of 5
All day long these thoughts assault my brain.
He listened to me patiently, then suggested I take some time away tomorrow. Which I should do. But I know I’ll just come back to the same shoulds.
Then it occurred to me in a brilliant flash of reason – I’M PMS ing!! I haven’t really had to deal with this for the last two years, so it’s almost foreign to me now. Alas, my wishful thinking on this post has not come to fruition. I do still need to deal with the cycles of life for a few more years. It was such a relief to realize I wasn’t going crazy, and that this would end in a few days.
Dr. Dobson calls these emotions the seasons of a women’s month.
Week 1 – Spring, when we feel energized, optimistic and loving
Week 2 – Summer, still feeling pretty happy and content
Week 3 – Fall, we are slowing down, our feelings are hurt more easily, more sensitive
Week 4 – Winter, our bodies need more rest, we tend to “snap” and “loose it” more easily, it feels like life is overwhelming… until
Spring!!
This visual picture has helped so much. It’s hard to imagine that our emotions, our energy levels and our perceptions can be so affected by our hormones. I can’t help but wonder if we women shouldn’t all have a little sticker on our foreheads announcing to the world what season we are in. It might just be that we would give each other – and maybe ourselves, a bit of a break.

15 Years

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On this day 15 years ago, I married my best friend.



I was terrified.

I loved him, but in my head I knew that as soon as I gave in and married this guy, he would become a different person and my life would be painful. I even called off our wedding 6 weeks before because of the fear that he would become an angry, controlling, difficult individual (hmmm… nothing like my dad, I’m sure).

But he didn’t change for the worse. He only became more wonderful, and more loving, and more understanding… I never knew that marriage could be this amazing. Of course we’ve had our hard times – even times of wondering if we could manage the rocky waves or if it would all come crashing around our heads. But God’s grace, Darren’s unconditional love and my stubborn passion to make it work, have brought us to this place.

A place where we really, truly, absolutely love each other more today than we did 15 years ago. We understand each other so much better – we understand ourselves so much better, yet love each other in spite of it :)

My profile says that “I’m the wife to a man who treats me better than I deserve” – Darren was very annoyed when he saw that. But it’s true. And sometimes I treat him better than he deserves. That’s one of the ways we make our marriage a happy one.

When we had premarital counseling, our pastor at the time told us that we shouldn’t get married.
Books tell us that when two “oldest” children get married, they are headed for disaster…
Yet here we are.
By the grace of God.
More in love than ever.

A wedding anniversary is the celebration of love, trust, partnership, tolerance and tenacity. The order varies for any given year. ~Paul Sweeney